Yesterday, a  mate of mine saw Prof. Trevor Waring lecture on the most common 5 themes for those who do well in life mentally.

My mate’s takeout were….

 1/  You must take selfish time and have some fun. 4 hour block is best

2/  You must have someone to share worries and fears. A spouse is best (preferably your own).

 3/  Belong to a group who positively reinforce you and reflect you. If you went to hospital who would visit you other than family

 4/  Doing charity or pro Bono work. Helping others

5/  Life review. Am I where I’m meant to be? What challenges do you have to look forward to? Have an agenda or aims

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According to the WildFig Alliance  Breakfast……….  Professor Waring noted the five common traits of resilient people as:

1. They have at least 4 hours unbroken “me-time” per week.  As Trevor noted, this isn’t just time with the family doing their thing or catching half an hour here and there – it is a lengthy period of time on some enjoyable activity just for the fun of it.
2. They have strong support from someone close, preferably a partner but possibly a special friend. The main need was to have someone non-judging and caring with whom to unburden worries and concerns and to provide emotional support.
3. They regularly perform some kind of community or charity work, not just through donations but through active assistance.
4. They have a plan with goals for the future.
5. They regularly review where they are with their goals, assess their achievements and re-evaluate their plans.

This short precise hardly does Professor Waring’s detailed presentation justice apparently he is an  excellent keynote speaker.

How well are you going?