Comments on: How to be the dad your son or daughter deserve http://www.dadsclub.com.au/4-steps-toward-being-the-dad-your-kids-deserve/ Because becoming one is easier than being one. Fri, 09 Dec 2011 01:03:44 +1100 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Dave http://www.dadsclub.com.au/4-steps-toward-being-the-dad-your-kids-deserve/comment-page-1/#comment-362 Dave Fri, 18 Dec 2009 12:54:25 +0000 http://www.dadsclub.com.au/?p=2391#comment-362 Effective parenting begins in the cradle.... 1) don't be negative 2) carry with you habitually a deep peace and calm 3) don't do the thinking for them 4) give reasons, starting from when ou kids is ver young 5) expect responsibility 6) foster a healthy hardiness so that your kids learns a degree of control 7) talk honestly to younger kids about relationships and sexuality Taken from parenting for character by Andrew mullins. FINCH PUBLISHING I'd also add - be their parent - not their best friend Effective parenting begins in the cradle….
1) don’t be negative
2) carry with you habitually a deep peace and calm
3) don’t do the thinking for them
4) give reasons, starting from when ou kids is ver young
5) expect responsibility
6) foster a healthy hardiness so that your kids learns a degree of control
7) talk honestly to younger kids about relationships and sexuality
Taken from parenting for character by Andrew mullins. FINCH PUBLISHING
I’d also add – be their parent – not their best friend

]]> By: SteveB http://www.dadsclub.com.au/4-steps-toward-being-the-dad-your-kids-deserve/comment-page-1/#comment-358 SteveB Mon, 14 Dec 2009 12:36:39 +0000 http://www.dadsclub.com.au/?p=2391#comment-358 The Role model is usually a high profile personality. In our society they are typically sports people. Your kids may never meet this person, yet still consider them to be a role model. These role models usually fall within a finite stereo-type which may not fit with the personality type of your child. When boys deviate from standard male pursuits, such as rugby or cricket, their peers will often give them a hard time. The debater, artist or musician will usually only be accepted by his peers if he steps up on the footy field. Yet this gentler side is often seen as a valuable asset much later in life. Just ask their Mum! Boys need positive role models. Their dads, and other significant men in their lives, teach them how to be good men and provide ongoing guidance on realising their full individual potential. Boys need to be taught how to respect women. Their dads can teach them how to hold their emotions so a woman feels safe. Boys need to be taught to do housework. Their dads can encourage them to be of service to others (e.g. by cooking others a meal) and connect to humanity. But dads also play a big part in their daughters’ lives. Dads teach girls to understand boys, and mums teach boys to understand girls. The modern-day dad is no longer just a breadwinner. Dads have a significant role to play in raising their kids, loving their kids, and helping them be honourable, giving, and wonderful human beings. What a privilege. The Role model is usually a high profile personality. In our society they are typically sports people. Your kids may never meet this person, yet still consider them to be a role model. These role models usually fall within a finite stereo-type which may not fit with the personality type of your child.

When boys deviate from standard male pursuits, such as rugby or cricket, their peers will often give them a hard time. The debater, artist or musician will usually only be accepted by his peers if he steps up on the footy field. Yet this gentler side is often seen as a valuable asset much later in life. Just ask their Mum!

Boys need positive role models. Their dads, and other significant men in their lives, teach them how to be good men and provide ongoing guidance on realising their full individual potential.

Boys need to be taught how to respect women. Their dads can teach them how to hold their emotions so a woman feels safe.

Boys need to be taught to do housework. Their dads can encourage them to be of service to others (e.g. by cooking others a meal) and connect to humanity.

But dads also play a big part in their daughters’ lives. Dads teach girls to understand boys, and mums teach boys to understand girls.

The modern-day dad is no longer just a breadwinner.

Dads have a significant role to play in raising their kids, loving their kids, and helping them be honourable, giving, and wonderful human beings. What a privilege.

]]> By: SW http://www.dadsclub.com.au/4-steps-toward-being-the-dad-your-kids-deserve/comment-page-1/#comment-352 SW Sun, 13 Dec 2009 12:22:59 +0000 http://www.dadsclub.com.au/?p=2391#comment-352 Interesting! Interesting!

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